Recovering from a Narcissistic Parent

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Do you struggle with self-doubt? Are you great at reading other people’s emotions? Are you plagued with shame and guilt for not meeting others’ needs? Do you have a harsh inner critic? Do you struggle to recognize your own needs? If you can identify with any of the above statements, you may have grown up…

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Why Trauma Causes Overexplaining

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If you have been through some type of traumatic experience, your head can feel very loud. It may feel impossible to shut off your thoughts. You may run through various scenarios many times over in attempts to anticipate every possible permutation. This can leave you exhausted, frustrated, and often times frozen. The need to justify…

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Working with the False Self in Trauma Therapy

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If our emotional needs go unmet in childhood, we often develop a false self as protection. We may have learned to be attentive to the needs of our parents or siblings and disavowed our own needs. Or, we may have centered our whole identity on our achievement. Survivors of trauma often make themselves smaller and…

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